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Inspiration and Motivation
By Laurel Clark
Setting goals and accomplishing them brings satisfaction and fulfillment. Most people know how triumphant we feel when we complete something we intended to do. But what happens when the motivation to accomplish wears out? When we find ourselves procrastinating by checking Facebook, drinking another cup of coffee, or finding other ways of frittering away our time?
How do we keep the motivation going?
- Category: Health & Wellness
There’s a reason people love the first day of spring. The idea of a clean slate – of making changes or starting over fresh – can be exhilarating. But to have the life you want means you have to change course. Here are some ways to make that turn in your life.
• Put fear in its place and understand it.
Fear has no power unless you lend it power. Think about the biggest fear you’ve ever had. What was the outcome and did you recover? Chances are you came out the other end just fine.
• Courage is not the lack of fear but going forward in the face of it.
Courage is like exercise: The more you use it, the easier it becomes – and the more you benefit. You have to choose to face life with courage – but in the end, it’s how you handle fear and how you respond to it that can change your course.
• Compromise is a dirty word.
It can steal your life and dreams. To work for or spend time with someone who doesn’t share your values is a compromise and compromise robs your energy and slows your momentum.
• There is great value in having mentors.
It’s less painful and more efficient to learn from the mistakes and successes of others. Learn from them and emulate them in your everyday life.
• Dream without restraint.
Thinking about what you want to do only in the context of what you know you can do is more of a nightmare than a dream. Pursue your goals with all you have. Don’t be concerned with failing. The journey and the struggle can be extremely satisfying.
• Be honest with yourself.
Many people lie to themselves about whom or what is most important to them. Lying sets off a chain reaction that stalls momentum and makes your life a little less than what it should be. Even small lies chip away at the person you want to be.
• Be impatiently focused.
We have a limited a number of breaths to build the world around us. Focus on a goal and don’t wait for the right moment or perfect conditions to go for it. Time matters.
• Control what you can control and forget about the rest.
Every moment you spend lamenting a situation you couldn’t control, you’re stealing from yourself. Direct your energy and momentum to something you can manage instead. Decide what is important to you. Then dream boldly and take action.
Excerpted with permission from How to Live the Life You’ve Yet to Dream by John C. Neyland
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by Judy Ryan
I often reflect on how many people are “checked out” at work, home, and school; they are suffering and barely surviving, rather than overcoming and thriving. The main reason for this outcome is that we are taught (directly and through modeling), that in and of ourselves we have very little power or influence and shouldn’t think otherwise. Most people see or read about someone like Nelson Mandela or the Dalai Lama and think, “Yeah, that’s not me.” And then, because we decide this is so, the possibility of being just as helpful and harmless is out of our sight and reach. This perspective sets one on a path to thinking and feeling hopeless, helpless, scared, and small, which leads to seeking answers and solutions externally. The thought is, “Maybe if I band together with a religious, philosophical, military or political group, I can become more effective and together we can make things better.” The problem with this idea is that most groups do not put a high priority on harmlessness and therefore can’t adequately represent what works while bringing only positive results.
For myself, I require an unwavering commitment to being helpful and harmless. Many believe this is a pipe dream. I know it’s not (I teach it, and see people doing it every day with astounding results!). What is required is willingness to put down the old, and work hard to develop and promote the new: kindness, equality, dignity, empathy, and shared power in new and bigger measures. Any activity that makes a person, whether inside or outside of a group, feel angry, hurt, oppositional, fearful, righteous, or coerced, has too high a price tag and must be discarded in order to make room for something better. The pseudo-power of using force and believing in conversion through it is very seductive. And while we humans need and want to be connected in community, we have an obligation to prepare ourselves to connect while peacefully and manifest trustworthiness of behavior.
I believe community only works well when people
have developed their internal leadership and can
maintain their ability to be helpful
while remaining harmless.
We need to help adults and children in homes, schools and companies to learn systems for doing this and to make them as important as–or more important than–making a profit, getting a grade, and having more stuff. With the recent marches, I have searched my soul about both the positive and negative effects of collective action. I believe community only works well when people have developed their internal leadership and can maintain their ability to be helpful while remaining harmless. While I can point to real changes, which many believe could only have happened through struggle and opposition; I also assert a lot of collateral damage and setbacks have occurred due to that struggle and opposition. Too often people have settled for new legislation when what’s been needed is sustainable and comprehensive resolution that only comes from within the heart. This type of core change requires highly trustworthy and caring relationships and conversations.