There’s a reason people love the first day of spring. The idea of a clean slate – of making changes or starting over fresh – can be exhilarating. But to have the life you want means you have to change course. Here are some ways to make that turn in your life.
• Put fear in its place and understand it.
Fear has no power unless you lend it power. Think about the biggest fear you’ve ever had. What was the outcome and did you recover? Chances are you came out the other end just fine.
• Courage is not the lack of fear but going forward in the face of it.
Courage is like exercise: The more you use it, the easier it becomes – and the more you benefit. You have to choose to face life with courage – but in the end, it’s how you handle fear and how you respond to it that can change your course.
• Compromise is a dirty word.
It can steal your life and dreams. To work for or spend time with someone who doesn’t share your values is a compromise and compromise robs your energy and slows your momentum.
• There is great value in having mentors.
It’s less painful and more efficient to learn from the mistakes and successes of others. Learn from them and emulate them in your everyday life.
• Dream without restraint.
Thinking about what you want to do only in the context of what you know you can do is more of a nightmare than a dream. Pursue your goals with all you have. Don’t be concerned with failing. The journey and the struggle can be extremely satisfying.
• Be honest with yourself.
Many people lie to themselves about whom or what is most important to them. Lying sets off a chain reaction that stalls momentum and makes your life a little less than what it should be. Even small lies chip away at the person you want to be.
• Be impatiently focused.
We have a limited a number of breaths to build the world around us. Focus on a goal and don’t wait for the right moment or perfect conditions to go for it. Time matters.
• Control what you can control and forget about the rest.
Every moment you spend lamenting a situation you couldn’t control, you’re stealing from yourself. Direct your energy and momentum to something you can manage instead. Decide what is important to you. Then dream boldly and take action.
Excerpted with permission from How to Live the Life You’ve Yet to Dream by John C. Neyland